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Boosting Your Self Esteem

Feeling bad about oneself is part of human experience. But if one regularly nurtures negative feelings then he or she is referred to as having low self-esteem. Such a person dwells in self-hate, shame, guilt, anger and embarrassment. A person suffering from low self-esteem criticizes himself and passes comments like, “I should not have done that”, “why do I act like a fool?” etc. Psychologists say that if you keep thinking along the lines of “I am a fool”, then your mind would tend to prove yourself right by making you act in such a way.

Signs of Poor Self Esteem

No one is like the other and we all react to situations differently. If you develop low self-esteem then you would have difficulty in making or keeping friends. You may become easily discouraged, disheartened and moody; as a chain reaction, this may put down those around you and you may also have a difficult time in solving your own problems. You would hold yourself back from new opportunities in life or move on into your future. If you ask, “can I not get out of this pattern?” the answer is a definite “yes, you can.”

Developing Positive Self-Esteem

Our understanding of ourselves is usually based upon other peoples’ opinions about us.  This is one main reason why some have a good self-esteem and others lack the same. It is imperative to develop a strong self-esteem in childhood. Self-esteem is learned and much of that learning occurs at home during one’s childhood.

Here we give you a few tips that would help boost your self-esteem:

	Love is the key to booster one’s self-esteem. Self-esteem is developed only by self-love. Learn to love yourself. This is the only way to see you as a valuable person in the society.
	Self-complement works like a tonic. Just look into the mirror and tell yourself that you are pretty looking or you are nice or any other nice statement about yourself. That works wonders!
	Dress up or make yourself look prettier or smarter. You could get a haircut, buy a new dress or do whatever that will make you feel like a new person.
	Make yourself physically fit and trim. This will improve your poise and presence.
	Make a list of all your positive qualities and know that you are not bad at all!
	Plan to do at least one good deed a day. This will make you see your generosity and kindness.
	Travel to new places and meet new people. You may discover that many people out there do not know themselves.
	Pay complements to a stranger and see how happy he or she feels. In return this will make you feel better.
	More importantly, stay away from those who insult you or put you down.

A positive and healthy self worth fosters self-confidence and self-esteem. Parents play an important role in promoting a positive attitude and high self esteem in their kids. The basic understanding that no one is born perfect should make you realize that you are not a worthless person. So try to see the truth and believe that you are unique in your own way. Remember that no one is perfect enough to put you down or hurt your self-esteem.